Whenever you are in a relationship, you might feel the need for security. After having a long term relationship with someone, you would expect commitment from your man, but often men are afraid to make commitments. Committing to a woman is a great leap for men, and hence they tend to hesitate. Have you had a many relationships, which never blossomed into anything permanent? It is important to understand the theory behind the fear of commitment and how you can help your man to overcome it.
The basic reason of this fear is the fear of losing their identity once they are in a committed relationship; the sense of self is lost. Before they realize, she starts dictating where and when to go, how to go etc. and many a times also starts dictating their personal space by having a say regarding whom they should hang out with and setting up rules. This loss of freedom is a great turn off for men. Very few women would let their man have such control, but on the other hand practice this same control on their man.
In order to convince your man to get into a committed relationship, show your man that you love him and that you are willing to accept him the way he is, along with his flaws. Be very careful while you make any changes, as constant nagging and arguing will wear him off and he will never want to make any commitment.
You must make him feel wanted and make him realize that life along with you will fun and not a mere responsibility that he has to do. Give him the freedom and make life with him enjoyable so that he wants to make a commitment with you not out of pressure but out of choice. He should feel that life with you will be fun, where you will treat him like a man and not a child. Respect him and his space and stop dictating, this will make him love you more.
Try to stay busy with your own work, where he is not included. This will give him some space and will also make him miss you. If you are able to pull back yourself enough, it will not only make him miss you much more, but will also make him realize the need to get into a committed relationship with you as the thought of losing you forever will scare him.
Men are easy to convince, if you provide him with what he wants. Love him dearly and make the right moves and he will surely want to get into a committed relationship with you.
